My girlfriend and I have been together for a couple of months and we both feel really connected, but recently I’ve been considering whether I should buy her a dildo for our pleasure. I’ve been trying to make sense of what is the best way to approach the topic without her feeling embarrassed or uncomfortable.
On the one hand, I feel like it could be a fun and exciting experience for us to explore together. We could use it to spice up our sex life and take it to the next level. On the other hand, talking about sex toys is not something I’m used to and I’m unsure of how she would react. Would she be open to the idea, feel embarrassed, or think it’s weird or inappropriate?
My friends have mixed opinions – some think it’s a great idea and that their partners enjoy it too, while others believe that it’s unnecessary and can ruin the pleasure of the sexual experience. However, the final decision is up to me and I’m still trying to decide if it’s the right thing to do.
At the same time, I’m worried that if I bring it up, she’ll take it the wrong way and feel like I’m pressuring her to do something she’s not comfortable with, which I would never want to do. I need to make sure I’m respectful and understand her feelings before anything else. Only then can I decide if I should take the plunge and make the purchase.
I’m also concerned that when I bring it up, it’s not going to be a smooth or comfortable conversation. It’s a new topic for sex toys me and I’m feeling nervous about discussing it at all. After all, when it comes to sex, communication is key but I don’t want to make things awkward or end up in a sticky situation.
I’m aware that the ultimate decision is in my hands, but I would really appreciate some advice on how to go about discussing it with my partner without offending her or making her feel uncomfortable. In particular, how can I make sure the conversation is open, honest and respectful? I’m looking for any tips on how I can convince her that the dildo is just another form of pleasure and not a replacement for intimacy. On the other hand, if I decide it’s not the right time, I need to make sure my girlfriend knows I’m not taking this decision lightly and respect her opinion regardless.
If I am to move forward with this, I need to be sure that it’s not going to be a mistake or even worse, an awkward situation. To be perfectly honest, I’m not clear on the finer details of how to approach this situation. What should I take into consideration before bringing it up? I need further guidance on the do’s and don’ts of talking to her about it. I’m sure the conversation will be a lot easier if I’m fully prepared and understand what to expect.
Overall, I think that if the timing is right and I’m ready to talk about it with my girlfriend, I should definitely go ahead and buy the dildo. I’m just scared of getting it wrong and ruining something that’s really special to both of us. Then again, I’m sure that if I’m respectful and attentive, I’ll know the right time to bring it up and it’ll open a new world of pleasure for us both.